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जी हां, यहां हम उसी बुर्के यानी हिजाब की बात कर रहे हैं, जिसे आमतौर पर मुस्लिम महिलाएं पहनती है। माना जाता है कि ये महिलाओं को गैर-पुरूषों की गलत नजरों से बचाता है। पर हाल ही में पाकिस्तान से एक तस्वीर सामने आई है, जिसमें एक महिला ने खुद ये हिजाब ना पहनकर अपने पति को पहना रखा है। वहीं महिला ने हिजाब पहने पति के साथ एक सेल्फी पोस्ट कर लिखा है कि वो जब भी बाहर निकलती है, तो ऐसा ही करती है। जाहिर ऐसे में बवाल मचना तो तय है, जो कि इस तस्वीर के सामने आते ही मचा भी, लेकिन सबसे पहले ये जानना जरूरी है कि आखिर इस महिला ने ऐसा किया क्यों?
दरअसल, इस महिला ने ये सब कुछ जेंडर स्टेरियोटाइप तोड़ने के लिए किया है। जी हां, पाकिस्तान के इस कपल ने इंस्टाग्राम पर सिर्फ एक तस्वीर पोस्ट कर बेहद मजेदार तरीके से लैंगिक समानता को लेकर बड़ी बात कही है। पति को बुर्का पहना डिनर के लिए ले जाने की बात कहते हुए जो कुछ भी इस महिला ने इस पोस्ट में लिखा है, वो काफी रोचक और प्रभावी है।
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This is my beautiful husband. Of course, you can't see how beautiful he is because I make sure he keeps his beauty (read: identity) hidden as I am the only true haqdaar of it. Everything he is, all his achievements, dreams, all of his fkn life, he owes it to me. Any namehram's nazar is haraam on him, so I prefer he stay at home as the world is a bad place. However, it is ok when he goes out with me. I took him to dinner at @madroostapk last night. We only go there because they use steroid free chicken and we are very health conscious, especially after knowing how growth hormone injected chicken can affect fertility. I don't want his fertility to be affected because his major purpose of existing is to give me children and make me a mother. So no matter what, I only bring him to eat out here. I Iove how he modestly hides himself while going out, as he is khuli tijori and I wouldn't want him to get molested. Even then if he gets molested, we will accept that as qismah and hope that the abuser will be punished in akhirah. I on the other hand can roam around and loiter on my own, in my chadda banyaan, in my tank top in my spaghetti strap top or even shirtless, because I am a woman. I am not scared of other women. They will not assault me. And even if they do, I will not talk about it because it will prove me weak and defenceless in front of the whole wide world. A woman is not supposed to be weak, you know, we were created to be strong and macho. Also, I let him go out to work and drive cuz I am a strong believer in equality. However, looking at na-mehrams and interacting with them in any way is strictly prohibited. It is my duty to ensure these practices as a pious husband is my key to jannah, how will I get to sleep with 70 virgins in the afterlife warna? Also photography and all is also haraam but we had to do this since in attempt to educate you all and save you from qabar ke saanp and jahannum ki aag. Where's my medal? . . . #genderroles #smashingpatriarchy #dawn #nomeansno #consent #endrapeculture #metoo

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Of course, you can't see how beautiful he is because I make sure he keeps his beauty (read: identity) hidden as I am the only true haqdaar of it. Everything he is, all his achievements, dreams, all of his fkn life, he owes it to me. Any namehram's nazar is haraam on him, so I prefer he stay at home as the world is a bad place. However, it is ok when he goes out with me. I took him to dinner at @madroostapk last night. We only go there because they use steroid free chicken and we are very health conscious, especially after knowing how growth hormone injected chicken can affect fertility. I don't want his fertility to be affected because his major purpose of existing is to give me children and make me a mother. So no matter what, I only bring him to eat out here. I Iove how he modestly hides himself while going out, as he is khuli tijori and I wouldn't want him to get molested. Even then if he gets molested, we will accept that as qismah and hope that the abuser will be punished in akhirah. I on the other hand can roam around and loiter on my own, in my chadda banyaan, in my tank top in my spaghetti strap top or even shirtless, because I am a woman. I am not scared of other women. They will not assault me. And even if they do, I will not talk about it because it will prove me weak and defenceless in front of the whole wide world. A woman is not supposed to be weak, you know, we were created to be strong and macho. Also, I let him go out to work and drive cuz I am a strong believer in equality. However, looking at na-mehrams and interacting with them in any way is strictly prohibited. It is my duty to ensure these practices as a pious husband is my key to jannah, how will I get to sleep with 70 virgins in the afterlife warna? Also photography and all is also haraam but we had to do this since in attempt to educate you all and save you from qabar ke saanp and jahannum ki aag. Where's my medal? . . . #genderroles #smashingpatriarchy #dawn #nomeansno #consent #endrapeculture #metoo</a></p> <p style=" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;">A post shared by <a href="https://www.instagram.com/themewlyweds/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_medium=loading" style=" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px;" target="_blank"> The Mewly Weds</a> (@themewlyweds) on <time style=" font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px;" datetime="2019-04-06T12:57:57+00:00">Apr 6, 2019 at 5:57am PDT</time></p></div></blockquote> <script async src="//www.instagram.com/embed.js"></script>
दुनिया की बुरी नजर से छिपाकर रखती हूं
महिला ने पोस्ट में लिखा है... 'ये मेरे खूबसूरत पति है, हालांकि आप इनकी खूबसूरती नहीं देख सकते , क्योंकि मैं इसे छुपाकर रखती हूं... क्योंकि मैं इसकी अकेली हकदार हूं। वो जो कुछ भी है, उसकी कामयाबी, सपने और उसकी पूरी जिंदगी मेरी कर्जदार है। उसपर किसी और की नजर पड़ना हराम है इसलिए मैं कोशिश करती हूं कि उसे दुनिया की बुरी नजर से बचाकर घर पर ही रखूं। सही रहेगा वो जहां भी जाए मेरे साथ ही जाए।'
पति खुली तिजोरी की तरह है
महिला ने इसके आगे जो लिखा है वो तो और भी मजेदार है... ‘ मझे पसंद है कि मेरा पति जब बाहर निकलता है तो किस शालीनता से खुद कर ढंक कर रखता है, क्योंकि वो एक खुली तिजोरी है और मैं नहीं चाहती कि कोई उसे लूट ले। अगर फिर भी बाहर उसके साथ कुछ गलत हो जाता है तो हम इसे किस्मत मान लेंगे और उम्मीद करेंगे कि ऐसा करने वाले को सजा मिले’।
मै औरत हूं, मुझे कैसा डर
जी हां, इस महिला ने इसके आगेलिखा है कि 'दूसरी ओर मैं कहीं भी अपने चड्ढा बनियान में, टैंक टॉप में, क्रॉप टॉप में या शर्टलेस होकर बेधड़क घूम सकती हूं, क्योंकि मैं एक महिला हूं और मुझे महिलाओं से क्या डर। अगर वो ऐसा कुछ करती भी हैं तो मैं किसी को नहीं बताऊंगी क्योंकि इससे मैं दुनिया के सामने कमजोर लगूंगी... क्योंकि हम तो माचो और मजबूत पैदा हुए हैं।'
इस तरह से इस महिला के इस पोस्ट के माध्यम से पितृसत्तातमक समाज की दोहरी मानसिकता पर करारा तमाचा जड़ा है। ऐसे में सोशल मीडिया यूजर्स भी महिला की तारीफ कर रहे हैं और मजेदार तरीके से प्रतिक्रिया दे रहे रहे हैं।
हालांकि वहीं कुछ लोगों ने इस पोस्ट पर नाराजगी भी जताई है, पर देखा जाए तो इस कपल का ये कदम असल में बेहद ही संजीदा और सराहनीय है।
Author: Yashodhara virodai
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